Dear Jennifer

Ok ladies let’s Talk about dating the wrong guys and your need to fix them.

So you meet this really cute guy, you have fun with him,  you talk , he has a sexy edge and your feeling good being with him.

Then certain conversations come up, he seems to get distant and reject talking about anything real and serious.

He even at points says hes anti relationship or marriage.

He says things that you feel red flags inside yet you still can’t help that fact you find him cute so you start dating him, you start having sex with him.

All the sudden you start to have deeper feelings and fast because you have been having sex with him.

Normal,  most females can’t stop from growing feelings very fast with a man who they are sleeping with.

Next thing you know you love him and it’s only been 1 to 3 months of dating.

So you want to talk to him again thinking he must have changed his feelings you assume his mind has changed.

So you bring it all up and guess what he feels the same as he did in the start of seeing him.

You feel hurt broken and used. So what do you do? You try and figure out a way to change him , to fix him.

He gets upset he rejects all your efforts.

So you feel helpless and confused why he can’t see the light and be a new guy for you.

You ask friends why? You ask family why? You just can’t understand whats wrong and how you can fix it all..

Why the hell has this man done this to you?

Well first you can’t fix anyone , any time you try good chance 95% of the time you will fail.

People must fix themselfs and first feel they need to change.

No amount of crying,  begging , Gifts , acts of love will make it happen.

Why? Simple you made a choice to date a wrong guy you knew it right from the first date. You wanted him to be mister right so bad , however he never wanted to be.

Know all you do is pressure him to change and this pushed him more away from you to the point he will just break it off .

Hard part to see is you need to change yourself not him.

When you make the choice to only date men who are open and ready for more from the start you avoid these types of issues that keep happening to you over and over.

So it’s time to place the effort to change into you and only you so you can break this terrible pattern.

The worse part is we blame the male yet deep down you hurt yourself by dating a fixer upper.

Who you date is your choice it’s time to make better choices in the men we allow to enter your life and your bed.

So next time you ask why? Remember the answer is inside yourself.

Originally posted 2010-03-05 00:53:07. Republished by Old Post Promoter