Dear Jennifer

well i just got with this boy and we’ve already had problems while i was hanging with a few friends he kissed me which was fine as we were dating but he wanted to go further so he got ontop of me and i think he wanted to do ( you know what) but i refused now he told all his mates saying im uptight for not doing IT. what should i do and should i be less uptight about it?

Well the pressures of being a younger girl can be hard. You are faced with making the right personal choice for you and feeling like you want to save face in front of your friends.

There are a few ways of doing that. First you did the right thing in not going throw with something that felt wrong for you at the time. What you want to do with your body Always comes first before what a boy wants however know you feel like he made you look bad to others.

So he said you where uptight and that bothers you and makes you feel under pressure. He did that to save face in front of others as why you did not have sex with him so if i was you next time someone makes that comment that you where uptight just turn around and say well hey I can’t help he did not turn me on.. or hey he was kinda a bad kisser.

It sounds like you need to feel like your not being made fun of and that will turn it around.

In a perfect world I would say tell your friends it’s your body and your choice but i don’t want to ignore the peer pressure you are under and feel at your age. so fight fire with fire in a smart way that makes your friends think you are cool..

I will not tell you what you want to hear I will tell you the truth!